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Healthy Relationships and Boundaries
Understand respect, consent, communication, boundaries and warning signs of controlling behaviour.
What healthy relationships include
- Mutual respect and honest communication
- Freedom to have friends, interests and opinions
- Consent that is voluntary, informed and can be withdrawn
- Boundaries that are discussed and respected
- Disagreement without threats, humiliation or violence
Warning signs
Concern is warranted when someone controls contact with family or friends, demands passwords, tracks movements, pressures sexual activity, threatens self-harm to control another person, humiliates them, controls money or uses physical violence.
Communicating a boundary
Use clear language: “I am not comfortable with that,” “Do not share my information,” or “I need time before I answer.” A boundary does not require a long justification.
When it may be unsafe to confront someone
If there are threats, violence, stalking or coercion, prioritize a safety plan and specialist support rather than meeting alone. Keep evidence and involve a trusted adult or appropriate service.